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Showing posts with label thoughts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label thoughts. Show all posts

Saturday, February 23, 2008

Meditating to observe and free your thoughts

As I mentioned in my last post, I am reading the book "Detachment from Attachment" by Tejguru. One of the things it said is this:

- "if you are under the impression that someone else is responsible for your sorrow, then you can be sure that you will never be happy."

My question is, how do you make the other person see this point of view? I am still contemplating on this. If you have any ideas, feel free to write in the comment box.

Meanwhile, I feel like sharing the thought meditation method here. It is used to help you observe your thoughts and dissolve your fixation for thoughts.



Thought Meditation

  1. Close your eyes and sit in the meditation posture. (Sit down with legs folded and spine erect with the Gyan Mudra or Wisdom Posture - the hands should be on the knees with the palms facing upwards. The index finger and thumb should be touching each other with the rest of the fingers kept straight).
  2. Start watching your thoughts. See which thoughts are going on within you.
  3. Keeping the body steady, continue watching the types of thoughts that are passing through your mind from a distance (without getting identified; remaining separate). In this meditation, while being separate, you will know what kind of thoughts go on in your mind, what kind of thoughts are going on about various subjects.
  4. Keep watching and knowing your thoughts like a witness. Don't label any thought as good or bad. Avoid any such desire that I want more thoughts or I don't want any thoughts.
  5. Initially practise this mediation for 5 minutes and gradually go on increasing its time. When you become an expert in this meditation, then start giving numbers to your thoughts.

Thought Numbering Meditation

  1. In this meditation, for becoming thoughtless, thoughts are eliminated by giving sequential numbers. Sit in the meditation posture. Begin the meditation by watching every thought.
  2. Now start numbering every thought. As soon as one thought arises, number it in your mind as 'one'. As the second thought arises, number it as 'two'. In this way, continue counting the thoughts.
  3. Sit quietly even when there are no thoughts. If the thought arises, "At this time I don't have any thoughts," then number this thought also because "I don't have any thoughts" is also a thought.
  4. Don't pursue any thought. Just number it and leave it.
  5. With this meditation, the number of thoughts will reduce drastically. Sometimes even a thoughtless state will result. Practice this meditation regularly without expecting a given result.

To help you to see how it should be done, I have asked my assistant to demonstrate to you in this picture.





Happy meditating!

Friday, February 22, 2008

Thought for the Day



Rodin's Poet/Thinker[Source:NothingandAll]


If you look at the label cloud on the right sidebar of this blog, you will see that the label "thoughts" has quite a big font size and darker font color. This means that I have a lot of posts which I categorized as thoughts.

Now, is thought a good thing?

To be frank, this is something I don't really understand yet. So I don't know if I can explain this well. Anyway, the reason that I am bringing up this subject is because I came across a book written by Tejguru Sirshree Tejparkhiji with the title "Detachment from Attachment" today. I did mention something briefly about attachment in one of my previous post. It is a very good book. I am only halfway through.

However, I would like to share some of the passages with you because I think it might be useful for you to understand yourself and your world better. But before that, let me ask if any of you has ever struggled with your thoughts? I had such an experience before. You know, it is almost like your thoughts are a separate entity. That sounds scary, doesn't it? Like hallucinating.



Maybe it had to do with feeling insecure. I tried to analyze my behavior and thoughts.

Anyway, to cut the long story short, whenever those bad thoughts surfaced again, I scolded them. And they vanished, just like that.

This may sound like a trivial thing to talk about for some of you. But have you ever considered why there so many unhappy people in this world? Have you ever noticed that the mentally challenged (or retards, which sounds politically incorrect) are happier people.

This reminds me of an activity organized by the Social Welfare Society at the university where I studied. We invited some children from the Spastic Society over. We had games and dancing. The children were having so much fun and you could simple, pure joy in their faces.




Dancing children[Source:Global Giving]


Before I move on, let me share with you a video I have seen quite some time back. It looks a little like a presentation show tailored for the service industry. Johnny's thought for the day is inspirational. Click image to watch.




Here are some of the passages I find enlightening:



"Mind is unsteady and constantly fluctuating in which continuous changes are taking place. If in the morning, the mind is filled with jealousy, it is anger in the afternoon, greed in the evening and confusion in the night. Every moment is changing. Sometimes it is sad and sometimes happy. One moment it is filled with trust and the next moment if is full of distrust and suspicion. For a moment it is very sincere and the next moment it is filled with deceit. What is showing compassion one moment changes to anger the next moment. The one that was ready to die for someone, jumps up the next moment to kill the same person. The mind, which is wavering in this manner every minute, does not deserve to be trusted. Unfortunately, we have become one with this ever changing mind, we have become attached to it. We have identified ourselves with our mind. We have developed faith and reverance toward this erratic and fickle mind. In reality, mind is an illusion. This means it does not exist, but only appears to exist. It is necessary to understand how this mind gets created. There is no existence of mind, but it seems to exist. It is just like a straight wooden stick which when put in water looks bent, while it is actually not bent. It is like a rope which looks like a snake in the dark, while actually it is not. It is only because of darkness that a rope looks like a snake. Similarly, it is only because of ignorance that the mind seems to exist, but it actually does not. To know the mind, it is necessary to see it under the light of wisdom."
*****
"Man gets attached to his own thoughts. Due to this attachment, he becomes attached to every thought that comes to his mind and becomes identified with it. Due to this tendency, the same unhappy thoughts keep recurring time and again. If these thoughts happen to be of depression, then attachment to such thoughts can even prove to be the cause of his death. We should not fall prey to our thoughts. All around, we find people falling prey to thoughts. If through meditation, you just start witnessing them, then the glue that attaches you to the thoughts starts giving away."
*****
"You must look at thoughts as though you are looking at your children. When children start troubling you, you teach them to keep quiet. In the same way, when thoughts come and bother you, you must train them to sit quiet. The attachment toward children often becomes the cause of misery for their parents. Likewise, your attachment to thoughts can become a cause for your downfall."

If you would like to find out more, you can visit the Tejgyan website. The book has some suggestions on meditation methods on witnessing and dissolving the fixation for thoughts.

Okay, it's clear to me that our minds can be our best friend as well as our worst enemy. So, be careful with our thoughts. For now, let's escape from our thoughts for a moment and enjoy the following music video - Amazing Grace by Chris Tomlin. Susu kacang, I think you want some, right?





Thursday, February 21, 2008

Achieving your childhood dreams


Actually this was the title of the last lecture delivered by Professor Randy Pausch at the Carnegie-Mellon University to an audience of 400 people. There is a tradition that when the lecturers are asked to give their last lecture, they have to think deep and talk about a topic that will have a lasting impact on people's lives. For Professor Randy, however, it would be his last lecture because he was leaving this world because of cancer.

Not many of us actually can achieve our childhood dreams. For some of us, our dreams just fade away as we are forced to confront the realities our of lives. I have often thought that it important for us to have dreams, but more importantly, I think we must not let our dreams die. I believe dreams give us a purpose in life and the ability to fulfill it makes us feel complete of ourselves.





Can it be that dreams are little goals we have set for ourselves before we came into this world? And can it be that we ourselves set the challenges that we need to go through in order to achieve our goals? Assuming this is the case, I am really amazed to see how certain individuals have gone beyond the feats of ordinary folks like me. An example is this Paralympian athlete who dreams of competing with normal athletes in Beijing Oympics 2008. Check out Oscar Pistorius story here.

I consider myself lucky to have achieved most of my childhood dreams. Sometimes it amazes me how the pieces actually fall together in life. I got into science stream, did electrical engineering, majored in communications, researched into electromagnetic problems, worked at Bell Labs, worked on wireless products, got to do integrated circuit designs and made it to US. These were some of my dreams and I have achieved them.

Actually my dreams sort of revealed themselves as I moved forward in life. I have this superstitious belief that when you tell somebody about your wishes or dreams, they will not come true anymore. So it's better for me not to say anything about my current dreams. It may be confusing to you that while I am supposed to talk about childhood dreams, I am now referring to my current dreams. The way I look at it is that you have this big dream and in order to fulfill it, you need to achieve all the little dreams. Get it?

Now, Professor Randy also had his childhood dreams. You can watch his lecture on youtube, which is the full version, or the shorter versions you can find in my previous post.



Believe it or not, I think he has achieved most, if not all, of his childhood dreams. Like he said, even if you don't get what you wanted, you would have gained the valuable experience. One of his last messages in the lecture "if you live your life right, your dreams will come to you" was both inspiring and enlightening to me. What does he mean by living your life right? He mentioned a few, such as, "don't complain, work hard", "if you feel pushed, it's because they care" and "showing a sincere apology". He also co-founded the Alice, a computer program that teaches programming and this helped raise the level of interest and grades of female students in the computer science course.

If you need a good role model, I think Professor Randy will be one (and not the movie celebrities). He reminds us the difference between people and things, that it will be more fulfilling to love people that you care than material objects. He shows us how to be brave even in the face of death. He teaches us how to be good parents and allow our children to explore their world. He explains to us that the brick-wall is there not to stop you but to let you see how badly you want something. Above all, he wants us all to know that we can achieve our childhood dreams.

Thank you Professor Randy, may God watch over you.....





Some famous quotations

When you cease to dream you cease to live.
~Malcolm S. Forbes

To accomplish great things we must first dream, then visualize, then plan... believe... act!
~Alfred A. Montapert

Big thinking precedes great achievement.
~Wilfred Peterson

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Never say never

Do you like what you are doing? I mean, do you like your job? If you do, you are one of the lucky ones. If you don't, then I have two questions for you. Do you want to do something about it? When are you going to act on this?

There are two ways to deal with something that you don't like. You either learn to like it. Or you leave it. If you cannot do either of these, then you are stuck in the middle, which can be a real pain in the butt. Which brings me to the question of whether you chose this job in the first place or you simply had no choice. If you had a choice, then it's your fault if it didn't turn out as you expected. If you think you had no choice, then I say it means you know there is something better out there and it is your fault that you didn't try hard enough.

The point is, we have to learn to put the blame on ourselves when things don't go right. If you blame others, the blame stops there. However, when you blame yourself, you start to ask questions to yourself and seek solutions to your problems. You empower yourself to take the necessary action to remedy the situation.

That's the way it is, the world is a harsh place and if you are not tough enough, you will be at the losing end. The majority of us start out with an ideal picture of the world but become frustrated when realities begin to set in. In my generation, the medical and engineering profession is held with high esteem. Every parent would dream that their children would one day become a doctor or an engineer. Apart from the status that these profession bring, there is also good money and job security.

Unfortunately, times have changed. Let me rephrase it in another way. Society has progressed. The engineer is as disposable as the toilet paper. When the tech industry needs you, it hires you. When it is not doing well, it will not hesitate to fire you. I think this hire or fire process is more apparent here in the US than in other countries like Malaysia or Singapore.

What about doctors? This is even more disheartening when you hear malpractice cases. Recently, I spoke to a woman from Indonesia who lamented the quality of doctors in her country. One of her friends went to the hospital for flu but treated for cancer instead, was admitted into the intensive care unit and subsequently died!

Most of the folks would rather travel to Singapore or China (cheap but first class) to seek treatment than relying on local hospitals and clinics, be it government- or private-run. Thanks to government policies in awarding students a place at the universities or colleges based on race rather than merit, below par medical graduates are continuously produced. From what I hear, Malaysia is no exception.

But I digress, just a little....

If you have kids, what would you advise them to do? Would you groom them to become a sports personality? Would you encourage them to go into the entertainment industry? This is the case actually. The media circus has a lot to do with promoting careers along these lines. Following in the footsteps of Tiger Woods, you have young golfers like Michelle Wee etc. In tennis, kids as young as 6-years old are already training like professionals. So, the parents are really serious about their children's career development! Watch this:





It seems the way to achieve personal freedom is the financial route. If it is not because of money, you probably won't be stuck with your lousy job, right? With this in mind, some parents have taught their children what the traditional education system could not. It makes sense actually. Time and again, we hear people say that the education system makes a person lazy and less adventurous. We have become so used to having people spoon-feeding us. As a result, it is only inevitable that we do not know how to pull ourselves out of our situation.

Parents like Jenny Ford are teaching their children about business and wealth creation, how to be financially independent and making money online from an early age. It amazes me to know that children can compete against adults, even outdoing them. This is the great advantage of Internet - people cannot tell who you are or how old you are. You get to compete on equal footing.

You can find out more about their story here.

My point is, you can make the right choices in life. However, first of all, you need to detoxify your thoughts from all the negative elements. Never say that you cannot. Never say that you are too old or too young. Never say that you have no time. Never say that you are inapt at computers and internet.

Never say never.

Saturday, February 16, 2008

Happy Birthday, Ma!

Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday to birthday girl
Happy Birthday to you





Ma and Minnie


Let's see....what shall I talk about?

Hmmm...I remember a story once, no, more than once actually, told by my mother about a woman who was very, very poor. She had a child, a boy, whom she was determined to give a better life. So she worked very, very hard and made a lot of sacrifices, and made sure that he got proper education.

Years passed and the boy had now grown into a fine, young man. He did excellent in his pursuits and was a popular person in the town. Seeing how successful her son had become, the mother felt very happy and glad that the sacrifices she made was worth it all. The mother continued to work very hard because they were still very poor.

One day, the son was offered a position as a high-ranking officer on a ship, with a lot of money to go with the job. The mother decided that it was best for her son to take up the offer and explore the limitless opportunities waiting for him to discover. Her son felt sad but dutifully took her advice. After a last meal together, she bade him farewell at the port and saw him leave with the ship.

Years went on and the mother was now alone. Everyday she waited by the port for her precious son to return. She kept herself busy by working and working. It seemed that she never stopped working. She would only spend a little of the money she earned on her basic needs, and kept the rest safe for her son's keeping.

She did received a few letters from him in the beginning. But now she had no news about him. She grew worried that something bad might have befallen him. She went around asking everybody, anybody for her son's whereabouts but nobody could tell her.
She continued to wait at the port, her heart aching more with each passing day as hopes of her son's return faded away.

And then, the ship appeared. The same ship the woman's son boarded years ago. As the ship docked itself, the crowd waved and cheered noisily like welcoming a hero's return. The woman tried to see if she could find her son in the group of people disembarking from the ship.

She had never felt so excited and happy before. Finally, she saw her son. She could recognize him although he looked older with the beard and all. She thought he looked very successful from the way he was dressed. She called to him but he did not seem to hear her. Pushing her way through the crowd, she finally got to him. As she pulled on his coat, he turned around and gave her a short glance. It was as if the son did not recognized her mother. He turned back and continued his way.

The woman tried to keep up with her son. She kept calling his name and each time she was within touching distance, she pulled on his coat. The man turned around and scolded her and declared that he did not know her. Sensing that he was ashamed to be associated with her and trying to get rid of her, she became grief-stricken. Her heart broke into a million pieces as the shocking situation replayed in her mind.

In a loud, ear-piercing voice, she laid a curse on her son that he will turn into a pillar of stone for his unfilial behavior. Suddenly, the man froze in his tracks, and became paralyzed like a stone. Seeing what she had done to her son, the woman also met her tragic end by throwing herself into the sea.



~~~~~

Well, the moral of the story is to remember your mother. She brought you into this world and for this reason, it is sinful to disown your own mother. I wish there were a better ending to this story, like a happily after kind of thing, but maybe it goes to show that the world we live in can be very cold and heartless.

All of us were born into this world on our respective birthdays. Some of us were born under better circumstances and some were not. Jesus was born in a stable. In my mother's case, she was born in a hut in the middle of a rubber plantation. My grandmother gave birth to her while working on that day, I think. Soon after birth, the next day, that is, my grandmother went to work again.

My mother also used to tell me the story when everyone in the village was fleeing from the Japanese soldiers during the WWII invasion. Because she was still a baby then, she was left hidden in the ditch or drain. Fortunately, for her (and me as well), she did not make a noise and the Japanese did not notice her. An angel must be watching over her. I don't know if she is aware that an angel is still watching over her till this day, hahahaha. As they say, God is mysterious in His ways.

So what is so happy about a birthday anyway? Most babies cry when they are delivered. Some get slapped on their butts as soon as they arrive into this world. And that is the least humiliating treatment for a normal birth baby. Others would be put into some sort of chamber for life sustenance.

Apart from the fact that commercial retailers stand to profit from the birthday merchandises and the opportunities to party, what happiness do birthday celebrations bring?

I think the answer lies in this.

If, for the moment, we can forget about all the details that come with arranging a party for the birthday boy or girl (because we can get lost in details), let us ask ourselves why we appreciate their being in this world, our world. In what special ways have they filled our lives? Did they bring us companionship in an otherwise lonely world? Did they bring us joy in world that has begun to seem mundane and monotonous? Did they give us a sense of purpose when we were feeling the emptiness of life? Did they make us realize that we have inner strength which we can rely upon to summon the greatest challenges in our lives? Did they show us how little patience we have and ruinous we can become?

Therefore, we are the ones who should be happy. Happy that we become better persons too through our relationship with them. We are happy, year in, year out, because we know them, we know ourselves better. Whether they are six years old or sixty five years old, age is not the measure - it is the experience they bring, that have enrich our lives, that is relevant.

If you are happy because of them, then it is a truly happy occasion. It is a cause for celebration. It is the least we can do to show our appreciations for the blessings they have brought to us. Some of them may not have been born in this world under pleasant circumstances but we can change the fact for them. The best gifts you can give to them, can be a simple gesture of love and care. Something that will touch their hearts just as they have touch yours.

Well, I am happy and so I wish my mother a very Happy Birthday!





Come get the cake (order from PinkCakeBox)


Of course, I have no intention to turn into stone.

Thursday, February 14, 2008

From Your Valentine

Did you get anything for your Valentine's day?

I got my Valentine rose today.....





The Pink Rose


....handmade by Zoey (and Amy).

With so much marketing hype around, it is easy to forget the true meaning of Valentine's day.

I did some reading on the internet for the origin of this occasion. One version of the story has it that Valentine was a priest who was in love with the jailer's daughter. During his final days, he professed his love to the girl with a letter signed 'From your Valentine'.

Another version says that Valentine was the priest who continued to secretly marry young couples despite the prohibition by the Roman emperor, who claimed that bachelors made better soldiers.

Still, another version depicts Valentine as a priest who chosed Christian love (agape) over passionate love (eros). He was martyred for refusing to renounce his religion.



Pink Balloons
Pink Balloons

Fast forward many, many, many, many years later.

A certain pope Gelasius I did not really like the pagan festival where young Roman men celebrated fertility by bringing home young women they won from a lottery game. So he recast the day as a Christian feast day, declaring Feb 14 as St Valentine's Day.

It seems the first time St Valentine's Day was associated with romantic love was in a poem letter written by Geoffrey Caucher for a king and his bride-to-be, both around 14 years old of age.





Heart on Fire in the Sky - amazing picture from Harold Davis

Today, couples celebrate St Valentine's Day by going out for a nice dinner or exchange gifts, chocolate, cards and flowers. I remember when I was studying in Singapore, a stem rose which normally went for $2-5(?) suddenly was selling at $25!

I wouldn't have known that there is such a thing as White Day had I not read the wikipedia. In Japan, women are obliged to give chocolates to men on Valentine's day. In return, the men are supposed to give white chocolate or marshmallow on March 14, hence the name White Day.

So, the next time you are expecting special treatments in the form of expensive spending, do remember that at the end of the day, it is the retailers who are the happiest people after the purchase.

As they say, money cannot buy love and happiness. So, no need to buy expensive things. You can just go online and send a Valentine's Day greeting card on this website for free. Or maybe you can design your own gifts and cards. Homemade gifts are priceless for the love and creativity that goes into them. If you have no idea, just google for 'homemade gifts'.




Happy Valentine's Day


Wait....is the rose for me? I think Zoey was just showing me. Doesn't mean she is giving me, right?

Since you have been so nice and patient reading this utterly boring stuff, let me bore you with some more mushy-mushy songs....

From your Valentine
Susu Kacang





Interesting links:

Protest against Valentine's Day

Storm Worm on Valentine's Day

History Channel

Infoplease - another information site

Credits given to Harold Davis, D. Sharon Pruitt for pics

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Incredible Internet

As you can see, I have re-modeled by blog page again. It has to go with times. Cannot be Chinese New Year design when Valentine's Day is here, though technically Chinese New Year celebration is not over until Chap Goh Mei, an extension of 2 weeks and Chinese version of Valentine's Day. Instead of buying chocolates, cards, lingerie and whatnot, the young ladies will be throwing oranges into the river and making a wish for a good husband.

There is a Buddhist saying that "the key to open the gates of heaven is the same key that opens the gates of hell". So, for instance, when the internet is used for unholy purposes such as circulating porn images of celebrities, all hell will break lose. Keywords such as "Edison Chen, Gillian Chung, Cecilia Cheung, Maggie Q, Mandy Chen, Yu Ju, Vincy Yeung, Jolin Tsai, Rachel Ngan, Candice Chen or sex scandal" will return "unflattering" search results. And with a bit of skill and patience, you can very easily retrieve the information you needed.





Such is the power of internet. It is revolutionizing our lives to a different level, an effect labeled as world-flattening by the author, Thomas Friedman. There is so much information out there and you just need to look for the good ones. That's why it is called the information age.

If you spend enough time surfing and exploring, you find a lot a free stuffs given away by generous people. I have used some of the stuff to develop my template and credit should be given to these people:

Cow's Blog
Feed Icons
Cool Text
userscripts.org
.NET Butchering
Beta Blogger for Dummies
Dyers.org
netzgesta.de

and still others that I might have missed out. You guys are great!

On the other hand, I learned the hard way that not everything you find on the internet is good. Personally, I won't recommend you to use Haloscan - a post-comments managing system. It wrecks your original HTML code. Fortunately, I had a back-up copy and managed to manually edit back to the original code.

I am still on the learning curve and I like to use blogspot because I learn how the how thing works. On the other hand, it is probably sensible to migrate to your own domain server eventually and use other blogging platforms e.g. Wordpress.

The internet is truly incredible. Right now, if I want to listen to music, I can just go to imeem website and listen to any song. If I want to buy stuff, I go to amazon and other sites. If I want to call someone, I can skype. The big thing now is social networking. Some say the social network, Facebook, may become bigger than Google in future.

When you use the internet well, it can open the gates of heaven for you.

Huh, really?

Monday, February 11, 2008

Don't believe everything you read

Remember the following quotation, especially the second part if you are trading stocks.

"If you don't read the newspaper, you are uninformed. If you do read the newspaper, you are misinformed."

- Author unknown, commonly attributed to Mark Twain or Thomas Jefferson

When I was a young boy, a cousin challenged me to define the concept of gambling. To me then, gambling involves betting your money to luck, like poker, horses etc. So she forced me to think about other forms of transactions involving money, like playing arcade games. Hey, that's not fair!

There's a story I recently learned where a pastor was asked if trading stocks is gambling. He answered that gambling is when you do so without proper information. What do you think? One thing for sure, when it comes to gambling 50-50, you are on the losing end. Don't agree?

Let's say, you start with $100 for a stock. The stock falls 20% and you get back $80. Next, the stock rises 20%. You get back $96. The stock falls 20% again and you get $76.80. Up 20% and you get $92.16. Continue for 7 more sessions like this, you finish with $75. Therefore, if your average number of gains and losses is the same, and given that the magnitude of gain and loss is the same, you are doomed to lose in the end. What do you think?

Anyway, take note of these charts.




How long does it take you to say the word "recession"?



How deep is the bear cut?


At times like these, it is advisable to keep your cash. Don't jump in and out because of media reports. Cash is king. Sob sob, I wish I had more. Just wait for DJ and Nasdaq composite to fall to 10000 and 2000 levels. Meanwhile, just have a cup of susu kacang and enjoy the following videos. I need to too.





Friday, February 8, 2008

A simple Chinese New Year day celebration

Relatively speaking, Chinese New Year celebration in San Diego is a pretty quiet affair. No fireworks, no firecrackers, no lion dance troupe and no Chinese New Year special movies. In fact, it is not even a public holiday. And like other Chinese, Amy dutifully reports to work. So it's not difficult to see that eventually the Chinese tradition will be forgotten by the people living here.

Well, it is a joyous occasion, so let's see how we spent the auspicious day.


Let's have some nian kou for breakfast. I think it is made of lotus paste glutinous rice flour and sugar. We bought it from our local Chinese supermarket, Ranch 99. You cut it into smaller pieces and dip in egg before frying. Remove from the pan when it is soft.

We play our Chinese New Year MTV DVD with those firecracker sound and lion dance drum beat to make the occasion more realistic. That's as close as you can get. Hmmm, not sure I remember to play it this time.

And so, Zoey gets her angpow. The only one to date this year. Maybe gonna be the only one this year.



Then we go off to meet Amy for lunch. I made some fried mee hoon; at least something special for the occasion just like how we do it back home.



As you can see, Zoey is dressed to kill. No, she is just going to sing out loud.



You hardly find multi-storey shopping complex here unlike in Malaysia. There is more walking and driving to do but the upside of it is that you get the outdoor sun and fresh air. There are lots of open space for you to run around. In Zoey's case, she can fly around.



One nice thing about here is that you get a lot of pretty flowers. Now, as spring begins (Chinese New Year is a celebration of the spring festival), flowers will bloom everywhere.



Ok, lunch time over already.

So to wrap up the day, I made some man tou for dinner.



Well, I guess as long as you get to spend quality time with your loved ones, everyday is a day to celebrate.

Having said that, I believe it is important for us to celebrate the Chinese New Year as a way to remember our roots. Even so in a place or country where it is mostly uneventful. I may be a little old-fashioned here but I think it would be a great pity for us Chinese (be it mainland or overseas) if we lose touch with our culture and values.

This is Chinaman speaking, over and 0ut.

Tuesday, February 5, 2008

Are we prepared to go all the way?


We will always have doubts in our lives. Whenever things don't go our way, we doubt if we made the right decisions. Whenever we don't achieve results, we doubt our own abilities. Whenever people start to walk away from us, we doubt ourselves.

With doubts taking place so frequently, no wonder most of us become less confident of ourselves as time goes by. That is quite true - as we grow older, we become more careful. When we were small children, we were not afraid to fall. In fact, we got up each time we fell, because that was the only way to learn and grow. However, as we grew older, we became more afraid to fall because we might break our bones.

Actually, I think that is not a wrong attitude. After all, we need to adjust to our physical conditions. However, it seems to me that all these little doubts will gradually erode our trust in ourselves and prevent us from striving for the best.

Sometimes we might face a really big challenge that seems insurmountable. The first thing to do is not to panic. Back off a little, and try to break the problem into smaller ones that you can manage. It's like climbing a mountain. If you cannot take a big step, then use smaller steps.

But there are times when you are really hitting against a wall. Just like me now, don't know what I am blogging about. But when I receive comments from other bloggers out there, I feel encouraged. Because I realize that people are actually connected. It gives me that little energy to push forward. Hopefully not over the cliff, though.

Am I prepared to go all the way? Honestly, I can only answer that I will give my best.

Hey, Youtube is the next best thing after Google. Look what I found here. An inspirational video of faith....





You Raise Me Up

- Josh Groban

When I am down and, oh my soul, so weary;
When troubles come and my heart burdened be;
Then, I am still and wait here in the silence,
Until you come and sit awhile with me.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up... To more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up... To more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up... To more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up... To more than I can be.

You raise me up... To more than I can be.

Sunday, February 3, 2008

God doesn't require us to succeed....

He only requires that you try.

- Mother Teresa



Nick Vujicic - Life without limbs


Where does our inspiration come from? How do we know when it is here? Will we open our hearts and gladly receive it when it is here?

I remember once when I was really, really down. I felt lost and weak. I wasn't able to sleep. And when I did, I woke up and had great difficulty getting back to sleep again. I couldn't wait for daylight to come.

It was a terrible state to be in. There was a lot of things troubling my mind. I needed to clear my mind.

When morning arrived, I put on my sweater and jogging shoes and set out to Lake Hodges, about two miles away. I guess running or jogging, if you like to call it, had a calming effect on me. It provided me with a way to get rid of all those negative 'energies' in me. Actually a good exercise helps your body release the endorphins, and promotes the feeling of happiness in you.

(There is a great recreational park before the lake. It has three baseball fields, a big soccer field, a dog park, a private tennis and lawn bowling club, indoor and outdoor basketball courts and a nice children's playground.)

So I just ran on the hiking trails for another fifteen minutes before I reached this particular spot. There was a big, old oak tree here with an inspiring view of the lake. I climbed up the tree and just spent some time there.

And it worked.

Like a fish back in the water, I felt a sense of peace with the quiet and serene forest and lake around me. I felt that the noisy clutter that had been playing in mind was gone. I was able to look at things more clearly. And I felt as if somebody was talking reassuring words to me.

Maybe you can call that inspiration. Because moments like these are far and between. And they usually visit when your mind is free to wander. On this occasion, I was inspired to free myself from my shackles of doubt and worry.

What I learned from this experience is that worrying will not help you but to pray for stronger resolve to rise above the challenges. Well, that is one of the mysteries in living. It is not the money or power that makes a person great.

It is faith.

Be inspired by Nick....





So, remember to give your best shot in life......

P.S. I found my inspiration in writing this post from these sites:
Ratana Ong
Christian-Journey
and my friend who needs a little inspiration.

Saturday, February 2, 2008

Ushering the Chinese New Year

As the lunar new year is approaching, I thought I ought to get my act together as well. Kenny Sia's new year resolution is to slim down for his Malaysian Dreamgirl. Although my comment is number 100++, I am the number one to suggest badminton as a good way to reduce weight. See if I can hit top 10 next time. I have no problem with my weight, thanks to good genes, good eating and exercise habits;) I haven't formally made any resolutions. Gotta find a time to do it.

However, as you can see, I have decorated my blog to look nicer. I am still on the learning curve but I am quite happy with myself. 'Sedikit-dikit lama-lama jadi bukit', as the Malay saying goes.




The boar(pig) was pretty well-behaved last year, I think. Not the early part of this year though. It felt more like the year of the bear....for equities market, that is. Sometimes you can even spot the alligator.




Last week was a frenzy as capitulation took place. Who would not panic when you look at charts like this? Okay, it is still year of the boar.



A check on the weather report shows that the temperature now is 53oF (which is about 12oC) here in San Diego.



In Chicago, it is 27oF (or -2.7oC).




Sometimes I just miss the warm climate in Malaysia. When it is cold like this, you really don't feel like going out, don't feel like taking a shower. You take a longer time to warm up for badminton and your shots are usually awful.





Consider myself very lucky if I look at the winter storm now raging in China. It is the worst in 50 years and is blamed for at least 63 deaths, including at least 25 when a bus plunged off a slippery mountain road. Something for us to think about the effects of global warming and the consequences of our actions and inactions.





It is very hard to imagine what these folks have to go through. I already cannot 'tahan' (stand) the bus waiting platform outside the Johor Bahru immigration custom. I remember seeing a pregnant lady trying to get on the bus with another small child. Since it was extremely crowded, she had to pass her child over the people heads to some other person already at the entrance door. It is amazing to see that things like this still exist.



This year will be the year of the rat. It is said to symbolize wealth and prosperity. It is the first of the 12-year cycle of animals which appear in the Chinese zodiac related to the Chinese calendar. Rat is associated with aggression, wealth, charm, and order, yet also associated with death, war, the occult, pestilence, and atrocities.

Well, let's hope that the new year will bring good fortune and happiness to all of us.

Thursday, January 31, 2008

Teach a man to fish

There is a lot of truth in the saying -

"Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime."

Simply put, learning is the key to be successful in one's life. Do you agree?

Did you realize that the world is never static? If you did, it means you have probably adapted well to the new changes around you, and are a happy person. Otherwise, you are probably wondering what is wrong with your life.

There is a well-known principle of detachment (or non-attachment) in the Buddhist teachings. My basic understanding of this principle is that we need to let go of our old ways if we do not want to suffer any longer. This suffering comes about because we are not willing to change and are still hanging onto the old things while the circumstances around us have already changed.

There are many examples in life where we encounter such situations. For example, you may be in love with somebody who no longer loves you anymore. If there is really nothing you can do to win the person's love back, it is better to just let go than to cause more miseries to everyone. Well, I am sure you can think of various examples with similar circumstances. But I think the idea is the same - let go of the old ways and learn new ways to adapt to the new environment.

So, learning is what Nature intends us to do. If we accept it, we would have gained new experience. We never know what is in store for us. So why not be a little adventurous about it.

There are really very creative people out there. For instance, I came across this website called videojug while reading Ladan's site. I think you can learn or plainly enjoy the many videos that you find here. Its slogan is 'Life explained - On film'. Here are some of the videos I embedded here. Maybe you can learn a thing or two ;)




How To Make Chicken Tikka Masala


How To Make Naan Bread


How To Kiss Someone Passionately


How To Be The Perfect Girlfriend


How To Perform The Perfect Golf Swing


How To Serve: The Basics


VideoJug: Stephen Fry: The Internet


How To Put On A Condom

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Don't quit!



The majestic Mt Everest

There is a Malay saying "sedikit-dikit lama-lama jadi bukit". It says that you should not underestimate your efforts, no matter how small they are, for little by little, it will grow to become a hill. Or a mountain. I read a motivational poem on Ladan's website. It's a poem I haven't seen for a while. It is a poem that encourages you not to quit. Be sure to go to Ladan's post to read how she had to overcome initial setbacks and disappointments, and prevailed through perseverance and hard work.

When asked why he wanted to climb Mt Everest, the late Sir Edmund Hillary replied, "Because it is there." Sometimes our lives may appear like a huge Mt Everest to us. We are easily intimidated by its sheer size and magnificence and before we even get started, we have already given up hope.

Let me give you an example. Say you are preparing for your final exams. You see the huge load of material you have to cover and you start to get nervous. Instead of working on the subjects, you go somewhere and do other things - maybe play games, go shopping, watch TV, go chit-chat, surf the net etc. You tell yourself that when you are done with these things, you will get back to study. Okay, then you sit down for a couple of minutes and flip through a few more pages. Before long, your mind starts to wonder again and you leave to do something else again. After the day or week ends, you start to regret because you realized you have wasted your precious time.

Is this familiar to you? This is called procrastination. It is one of the major reasons why people don't achieve their goals.

You know, one way to get out of this situation is to try and look at things on a scale that you can cover first. For example, you can tell yourself to finish something in one hour first. When you have completed that, you will feel happy about yourself and more confident about your ability to accomplish your task. Little by little, you can add more hours to your routine. Before you know it, you have already finished all your revision and are fully prepared for your exams.

So, do things one at a time. That way, you have better chance of finishing them.

When I climbed Mt Kinabalu in my hometown, I just focus on the path in front of me. I enjoyed each and every climb that I did. Once, I even piggybacked my younger sis but I could only make 10 steps because the oxygen level was low at the summit. My good friend from Seremban, despite using all four limbs, also prevailed - passing the 11000ft mark. So, no matter how hard life seems, try to enjoy the challenges that it brings - don't quit, persevere and when you reached the top, enjoy the fruits of your success.
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Don't Quit

When things go wrong as they sometimes will
When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill

When funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh

When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit

Life is queer with its twists and turns
As everyone of us sometimes learns

And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow
You may succeed with another blow

Success is failure turned inside out
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt

And you never can tell how close you are
It may be near when it seems so far

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit
It’s when things seem worst that you must NOT QUIT!


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Monday, January 28, 2008

Money, money, money....

If you are interested to learn more about investing or trading in the stock market, I recommend a Bill Cara's blog. Currently, following his suggestion, I am reading Martin Pring's book entitled "Technical Analysis Explained". It is a thick book but I think it is worth getting one considering it is an investment. I cannot give a rating yet since I have only started on it. ;>





Anyway, while reading the comments in his commentary and community chat today, I came across an interesting video on "Money as a Debt". The running time is 47 minutes, so maybe you can order susu kacang to drink, sit comfortably and enjoy the show. Incidentally, this video comes from this website called socialistworld.net. And I found some interesting articles on current affairs related to Malaysia as well. You can read the article here. Seems like you cannot protest to the government about price rise.

Money, money, money....no money, cannot afford to buy things. Have you wondered how money is created? Not on the trees. Maybe wikipedia can tell you though the accuracy of the article is challenged by certain quarters.

How important is money to you? Money pays for your education and other bills. Yet money cannot buy happiness. You can read all the stories of wealthy people such as celebrities, dignitaries etc. who, despite their great wealth, still lead messed-up lives. Money attracts bad people like flies. When you have too much money, you become distrustful of people around you, even the closest ones like your family members. You always feel insecure and worried that people will take your money away or worse, take you away. Too little money also brings you a host of problems. Cannot pay for this and that. Not many friends maybe. Get sick but cannot pay medical bills. Always worried about no money.

Then again, I think it is easier to live with little money than too much money. If cannot afford to buy and pay, then buy less, and use less. Not many friends but the few friends that you have will be your best friends. You can trust their sincerity and will enjoy their warmth of friendship. Since you got no money, you tend to work harder and maybe move your butt around more. So maybe your health is better because of all the 'exercise' to your body. You tend not to eat 'expensive' food which may not be so healthy. The part about worrying about money - that is a mindset one has to correct. Remember the parable about the lilies and the birds in my earlier post?

So, I think stay in the middle path is better - not too rich and not too poor. What does ABBA say about money?



Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Be patient, don't gamble!



"The best way to think about investments is to be in a room with no one else and just think...if that doesn't work, nothing else will." - Warren Buffett

In my previous post, I mentioned about a stock that went from $13 to $130 in less than a year. In fact, if you look at the company fundamentals, it is very solid. The CEO himself has a huge share in the company. Since that last post, the share price has plummeted from $90 to a low of $48 before recovering at $53 today. In fact, if you have been following the stock market situation, you will be shocked to see so much selling going on now. It doesn't matter if the company is reporting great earnings like Apple today - everyone is just selling. Immediately after last night's market meltdown in Asia (you can follow the live news at cnbc), the fed rate was cut by 75 basis points (overnight) and that appeared to have lifted the stocks up a bit this morning. Nevertheless, if you haven't closed your long positions, chances are you are making some losses. In this economic turmoil, I think it is best to stay defensive - meaning, don't buy into rallies, rather - sell to take back some of your cash. Actually, the Baltic Drys Index (of which the company I mentioned is a component) was down a couple of weeks ago before this insane selling began. By the way, this index is perhaps a better economic indicator than stocks and bonds indices because it is totally devoid of speculation. Googling for the baltic returned me this blog (the post seems outdated though).

Even Google's stocks got beaten badly today. I think there is going to be a temporary relief from the surprise cut, as you can see in Asia stocks today. But after that, what else? There are very good financial blogs you can visit for information or discussion on the stock market such as Bill Cara, Wallaston Investments and others you can find on their blogrolls or posts.

In Bill's blog, he mentioned a passage from the bible taken from the Book of Ecclesiastes, Chapter 3.



There is a time

1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.


Similarly, there is a time for the market to go high and low. Although this post is unlike my previous posts where I mostly talked about self-introspection and so on, I hope I can urge you to act wisely with your investments. Don't panic (like I did, hahahaha), don't be too greedy, be patient, don't gamble. Good luck!


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Monday, January 21, 2008

Some profound Zen stories


The Zen Master did it again! Congratulations! Let's hope our local hero, Lee Chong Wei, can continue his amazing run in the next Super-series event - Korea Open.

I only came across some Zen stories when I was doing my research in Singapore. There are some that I think I can understand - actually very few that I understand. There's one about the Zen Master asking his disciples if they can answer why the leaf on a particular tree they were observing was moving. The first disciple answered that it was the wind. The second disciple answered it was something else (don't remember, too bad). Both answers were not what their teacher wanted to know. Well, the answer was it was their heart that made the leaf move. Does anyone out there know where to find this story? It's a meaningful story. Generally, I find Zen stories difficult to grasp. It feels hanging in the air.

As I was searching for some inspiration on what to write, I came across this website. It is called the Inspiration Bit. There's a post where an outgoing link for 101 Zen Stories was mentioned. Here are some that I have read before; the ones that I can appreciate.

A Cup of Tea


Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era (1868-1912), received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen.

Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor’s cup full, and then kept on pouring.

The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. “It is overfull. No more will go in!”
“Like this cup,” Nan-in said, “you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?”



A Parable


Buddha told a parable in a sutra:

A man traveling across a field encountered a tiger. He fled, the tiger after him. Coming to a precipice, he caught hold of the root of a wild vine and swung himself down over the edge. The tiger sniffed at him from above. Trembling, the man looked down to where, far below, another tiger was waiting to eat him. Only the vine sustained him.

Two mice, one white and one black, little by little started to gnaw away the vine. The man saw a luscious strawberry near him. Grasping the vine with one hand, he plucked the strawberry with the other. How sweet it tasted!


Muddy Road

Tanzan and Ekido were once travelling together down a muddy road. A heavy rain was still falling.

Coming around a bend, they met a lovely girl in a silk kimono and sash, unable to cross the intersection.

"Come on, girl," said Tanzan at once. Lifting her in his arms, he carried her over the mud.

Ekido did not speak again until that night when they reached a lodging temple. Then he no longer could restrain himself. "We monks don't do near females," he told Tanzan, "especially not young and lovely ones. It is dangerous. Why did you do that?"

"I left the girl there," said Tanzan. "Are you still carrying her?"

The following story is new to me but lately, I have been pondering about the role of the giving and realized that it is true that the giver actually seeks to receive. Therefore....

The Giver Should Be Thankful

While Seietsu was the master of Engaku in Kamakura he required larger quarters, since those in which he was teaching were overcrowded. Umeza Seibei a merchant of Edo, decided to donate five hundred pieces of gold called ryo toward the construction of a more commodious school. This money he brought to the teacher.

Seisetsu said: "All right. I will take it."

Umezu gave Seisetsu the sack of gold, but he was dissatisfied with the attitude of the teacher. One might live a whole year on three ryo, and the merchant had not even been thanked for five hundred.

"In that sack are five hundred ryo," hinted Umeza.

"You told me that before," replied Seisetsu.

"Even if I am a wealthy merchant, five hundred ryo is a lot of money," said Umezu.

"Do you want me to thank you for it?" asked Seisetsi.

"You ought to," replied Umeza.

"Why should I?" inquired Seisetsu. "The giver should be thankful."


And lastly, one that mentions about Jesus Christ's parables.


Not Far From Buddhahood


A university student while visiting Gasan asked him: "Have you even read the Christian Bible?"

"No, read it to me," said Gasan.

The student opened the Bible and read from St. Matthew: "And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow. They toil not, neither do they spin, and yet I say unto you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these...Take therefore no thought for the morrow, for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself."

Gasan said: "Whoever uttered those words I consider and enlightened man."

The student continued reading: "Ask and it shall be given you, seek and ye shall find, knock and it shall be opened unto you. For everyone that asketh receiveth, and he that seeketh findeth, and to him that knocketh, is shall be opened."

Gasan remarked: "That is excellent. Whoever said that is not far from Buddhahood."

Sunday, January 20, 2008

Learning in interesting ways

The education system in Malaysia has gone through a lot of changes over the decades. Under the British rule, all the school subjects were taught in English. After the nation gained independence, they were all gradually taught in the national language, Bahasa Malaysia (sometimes also known as Bahasa Melayu - why can't they make up their minds?). In the last few years, the government decided to revert back to English particularly to teach specialized subjects like Mathematics and Science. Apart from the language medium, the education ministry has also revised the syllables significantly. From what I heard, students today are learning less than previous generations, a statement we can easily verify by comparing the textbooks used now and last time. Well, I don't know how the education system will end up but we must continue to have teachers who can inspire the students to enjoy and love learning.

It has been a long time since I left my secondary school. Back then in the 80s, we still have a number of Indian teachers who were brought over by the missionaries. They were very devoted teachers. I remember one occasion during one of our Friday assemblies where one of our mission teachers was giving his farewell speech presentation. He had a huge built and was also our school discipline master. I would step aside timidly whenever he walked past because he looked fierce and serious all the time. Let's call him George. After his speech, George started singing his farewell song! And as he emotionally recounted how he planted this huge, huge, old tree in front of the headmaster's office, tears started to roll down his cheek. He was sobbing uncontrollably and took out his handkerchief to wipe his tears away. Wow, I never imagined a big and tough guy like him could get so emotional. That was something I can't quite forget.




Learning from nature's beauties


I am glad I had good teachers to teach and guide me well. When I was in form six, a biology teacher explained to the class how scientific facts are established - it is a process the begins with postulation, which is like a proposal, I guess. Some criteria has to be met before it is promoted to a new level called hypothesis, I think, and so on, until it finally becomes a law. For instance, in physics, you have Newton's Law of Mechanics which consists of three laws (1) Inertia - the tendency for a mass to stay in the same state, stationary or moving(2) Force equals to mass times acceleration, F=ma (3) Action equals reaction. These laws were established after observing how everyday objects behaved and meticulously conducting experiments to arrive at some useful conclusion.

The point is, my teachers managed to bring the science subjects to life and made them so enjoyable. At least to me. I don't believe in learning through memorizing and studying for exams (unless you just want to get the cert). If you do that, you will miss the great experience of meaningful learning. One way to make the subjects alive is to read about the discoverers themselves.

I think my worst experience in learning science was in my lower form. I didn't really enjoy the way science was taught. One example I can remember off my head was how the teacher explained that in our solar system, there were only the nine planets (moons, comets and asteroids) and empty space in between. Just vacuum. No question about it. That kind of approach in teaching certainly does not promote inquisitiveness and instill the spirit of learning. You must realize that there is no end in learning. For example, we now know that space isn't really empty after all. There are streams of particles flowing out from our sun, escaped gas molecules from earth, radio waves transmitted by our stations and the satellites and perhaps aliens (hahaha). Space is not really a flat plane but can be bent by gravitational forces - like a wrinkled tablecloth.

It is also important to read good books. I read the physics textbooks written by M.Nelkon and P.Parker (or Parkson, cannot remember...sounds like Spiderman) over and over again. I also had this thick biology book with the Rafflesia plant on its front cover. Later in life, I also read fiction and non-fiction books written by the sci-fi maestro - Isaac Azimov. Can you believe that he had written 500 books in 50 years (I think)? Once you pick up his book, you never put it down until you reach the last page. I don't think you can get that much pleasure from reading those summarized version of textbooks called "Buku Panduan".



Scenic La Jolla Cove


So, how do you learn in interesting ways?

Maybe a good example can be gleaned from the following story taken from my hero Feynman's experience.

'During walks in the woods with my father, I learned a great deal. In the case of birds, for example: Instead of naming them, my father would say,"Look, notice that the bird is always pecking in its feathers. It pecks a lot in its feathers. Why do you think it pecks the feathers?"
I guessed it's because the feathers are ruffled, and he's trying to straighten them out. He said,"Okay, when would the feathers get ruffled, or how would they get ruffled?"
"When he flies. When he walks around, it's okay; but when he flies it ruffles the feathers."
Then he would say,"You would guess then when the bird just landed he would have to peck more at his feathers than after he has straightened them out and has been walking around the ground for a while. Okay; let's look."
So we would look, and we would watch, and it turned out, as far as I could make out, that the bird pecked about as much and as often no matter how long he was walking on the ground and not just directly after the flight.
So my guess was wrong, and I couldn't guess the right reasons. My father revealed the real reason.
It is that the birds have lice. There is a little flake that comes off the feather, my father taught me, stuff that can be eaten, and the louse eats it. And then on the louse, there is a little wax in the joints between the sections of the leg that oozes out, and there is a mite that lives in there that can eat that wax. Now the mite has such a good source of food that it doesn't digest it too well, so from the rear end there comes a liquid that has too much sugar, and in that sugar lives a tiny creature, etc.
The facts are not correct. The spirit is correct. First I learned about parasitism, one on the other, on the other, on the other.
Second, he went on to say that in the world whenever there is a source of something that could be eaten to make life go, some form of life finds a way to make use of that source; and that each little bit of leftover stuff is eaten by something.
Now the point of this is that the result of observation, even if I were unable to come to the ultimate conclusion, was a wonderful piece of gold, with a marvelous result. It was something marvelous.'



Pelicans

Thursday, January 17, 2008

Forgiving



We have so much to learn from children. I remember when I was a kid, I often use this special weapon against kids who pissed me off. I would say something like I will not be friends with them anymore for this and that. Sometimes the other party will give in. Sometimes they will say 'don't be friends, don't be friends lah' which means no more friendship for us. Kids are kids and this childish event will in no time be forgotten and all will be forgiven. Ah, those were the days but I am sure kids today behave like that too. I believe some things never change.

Adults, on the contrary, are just too serious to know how to have fun like a child. When they don't like you, they really mean it and can do really bad things to hurt you. They don't forgive you. They take an eternal time to forget. Actually when you don't forgive or cannot forget, you are carrying a burden of the past around you all the time. It is very tiring thing to do and can upset your health.

So we should learn from children. I think children are actually God's gift to us. They are here to teach us how to be young again. They teach us how to forgive and forget. They teach us how to be a happy person. Just look at kids. They have very 'short-term' memory. Even when you are mad at them, they will still treat you like friends the next minute.






I count myself lucky that I have not met anyone bad enough to make me a cold and unforgiving person. I do have my share of bitter life-changing experiences but maybe my 'blur' nature helped me to navigate through them. In a way, I am glad; as they say, ignorance is bliss. Or perhaps, only time will tell, time will do the healing. I think the Bible did mention somewhere to forgive 7 x 7 = 49 times. Wow, that's too much for me. I think my limit is 2 times.

Anyway, I wish to share the following poem. I think it reminds us that forgiving is only the first step you take towards better understanding of yourself. Now, isn't that cool?



Forgiveness

by Judith Mammay

Forgiveness is letting go of the pain
and accepting what has happened,
because it will not change.

Forgiveness is dismissing the blame.
Choices were made that caused the hurt;
we each could have chosen differently,
but we didn't.

Forgiveness is looking at the pain,
learning the lessons it has produced,
and understanding what we have learned.

Forgiveness allows us to move on
toward a better understanding
of universal love
and our true purpose.

Forgiveness is knowing that love
is the answer to all questions,
and that we all
are in some way connected.

Forgiveness is starting over
with the knowledge
that we have gained.
It is saying:
"I forgive you, and I forgive myself.
I hope you can do the same."



If you judge people, you have no time to love them. -- Mother Teresa

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Celebrating every day



Every day seems to be getting harder.When we were young, we can't wait to grow up. When we are at school, we can't wait to graduate and find work. When we are working, we can't wait to retire. Or go back to study again. When we retire, we can't wait to go back to work again. We can't wait to have our own family. And when we have one, we can't wait for the kids to grow up. When they have left, we have too much time. When we are old, we wish we have good health, When we are old, we wish we were young again.

No wonder it is getting harder everyday. We are always busy fulfilling our needs, busy looking for something better and bigger. Little by little, our minds and bodies get so beaten up and we feel kind of lost. Perhaps we can slow down a little. And experience the little things. A little naivety won't hurt. Sometimes the little things add meaning to your life. They make you feel a little special about yourself. They help you to understand what life means to you.



What are the little things? It could be a nice, quiet moment in a boisterous world. It could be the pleasure of waking up late in the morning. It could be spending time with people you care about. It could be a visit to the park. It could be giving something to the needy. It could be a cup of susu kacang (soya bean) drink. Just let yourself enjoy and appreciate your special moment today. And another day. When you can celebrate every day like a special day, every day will seem less hard.

Here's a nice poem that you may like.



Today, I wish you a day of ordinary miracles...
A fresh pot of coffee you didn't make yourself...
An unexpected phone call from an old friend...
Green traffic lights on your way to work...
The fastest line at the grocery store...
A good sing-along song on the radio...
Your keys right where you left them.
Life is not measured by the breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath.